Perks Magazine

Rhonda reflects on how her experiences have shaped her view of relationships.

‘Why do to your man what he can do to himself?’ This week I ventured into the erotic world of Tantric massage.

At 39, single mother Pacsac reflects on dating, her ‘Cinderella Syndrome’ and starting over.

We review Jillian Keenan’s memoir on Shakespeare, love, and spanking: a story not just for kinksters and fetishists, but for everyone.

Thinking of buying a sex toy? Victoria from Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop talks sex toys, the sex toy industry, and how to find the right fit for you.

Essena O’Neill may be weeping her carefully crafted ‘this is REAL’ and ‘I’m doing it for my 12-year-old-self’ story all over her website, but she is also asking you and me to send her money now that she has to make a living like the rest of us.

Meet Melissa K.: Feminist and Submissive who has had to resolve the conflict between her rape fantasies and her strongly feminist ideals.

What monogamy really asks of our long-term partners and ourselves.

Want to explore the pleasures of playing with rope? Rope Sensei has got your back.

Clarissa-Jan Lim shares the story of a self-proclaimed feminist BDSM couple Ian Locklear and Nicole Lavoie and the ways they reconcile their feminist views with their D/s lifestyle…

‘Rape’? Rhonda Perky reflects on the weight of words in how we conceptualise our experiences.

Rhonda recalls her journey out of the crab basket and beyond the mould in which she was once cast.

In the heat of the moment, whose threesome is it, anyway? Rhonda explores the gap between fantasy and reality.

Rhonda Perky shares her reflections on ending up in an abusive relationship and how she eventually walked away, and the questions this raises for our society.

Objectifying images may be less comfortable and more confronting to watch, but they can evoke a more direct physical response. But what if there is an emotional cost of continually engaging in this kind of ‘disturbing arousal’?

Rhonda reflects on surviving as a unicorn in the Swinger’s Scene.

Rhonda explores the nuances of consent and what happens when we are socialised to defer to the needs of others or to push past no.

Rhonda reflects on the rise and fall of desire in a long term relationship.

In Part Two of this exploration of self-image, projection, and the ego-defences, Rhonda explores the unreliability of memory.

Negotiating safe sex should be straightforward. But when those involved fear rejection and judgement, when we associate asking for a condom with calling someone ‘dirty’, when we are socialised to defer to others, it gets complicated.