Perks Magazine

Sex ‘addiction’ has become a label we slap on anyone we perceive as having a higher than ‘normal’ sex drive (whatever that is) or whose behaviour sits outside social norms (whatever those are). Is this just another form of slut-shaming?

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When I think of sacred sexuality (or Tantra), it sets off my bullshit meter. I picture caftans and communes, or people publicly displaying a kind of seventies big-bush sexuality that feels particularly unsexy to me. Is this sex-negativity in spirituality’s clothing? Or is something else going on?

We review Jillian Keenan’s memoir on Shakespeare, love, and spanking: a story not just for kinksters and fetishists, but for everyone.

Rhonda explores why it’s socially acceptable for women to flirt and compliment, but not straight men.

Lady Chatterley shares her non-monogamous memoir.

‘How I became aware of my masochism.’ Erotic novelist David (Pinke Grapefruit) explores what being a masochist means to him.

Think if you’ve seen one sex shop you’ve seen them all? Look again. Michelle Temminghoff talks about what makes Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop in Melbourne, Australia, more than just an adult store.

Sex can be functional and legitimate or it can be sexy and pleasurable, but never both…

Carl Skase contemplates some of the worst places you can have sex.

I can’t change the way we objectify and value physical appearance; I can only change the way I see myself. I am more than my appearance, more than my achievements, and I don’t have to be seen to have value.

Does sex necessarily involve power? Not just Domination and submission, but non-BDSM sex? Rhonda Perky explores questions of power and privilege inherent in sex.

Rhonda explores the grief around her choice not to have children, from societal pressures, childhood trauma, and the state of the world today.

Rhonda explores her toxic relationship with body image, attachment to self-criticism, and aversion to self-acceptance.

Rhonda reflects on the many ways she has taken on responsibility that never belonged to her.

Rhonda reflects on surviving as a unicorn in the Swinger’s Scene.

Objectifying images may be less comfortable and more confronting to watch, but they can evoke a more direct physical response. But what if there is an emotional cost of continually engaging in this kind of ‘disturbing arousal’?

Rhonda Perky shares her reflections on ending up in an abusive relationship and how she eventually walked away, and the questions this raises for our society.

Rhonda recalls her journey out of the crab basket and beyond the mould in which she was once cast.

Is there such a thing as the ‘right’ number of partners?